This pride and all year long, I want to give a shout out to us fat queer people
To fat queer people who never get to see representation of themselves because the vast majority of queer representation is of thin people
To fat queer people who have to put ten times the effort into their gender expression just to be viewed as 10% of their gender
To fat queer people who get misgendered no matter how they look
To fat queer people who can never present how they want to anyway because affirming clothes in their size are either nonexistent, triple the price, or terrible quality
To fat asexuals who are believed even less about their identity because they’re told it’s just a matter of “no one wanting to have sex with them”
To fat aromantics who aren’t respected because their aromanticism is viewed as “No one loved you anyway”
To fat gay people who have their identities denied because “You just couldn’t find a man/woman who wanted you”
To fat nonbinary people whose bodies are viewed in the queer community as inherently gendered and incapable of being androgynous
To fat binary trans people who are always viewed as whatever gender hurts them most
To fat trans people who are denied surgeries due to medical fatphobia, have difficulty finding products like binders in their size, are told that thinness is a must to “pass” as their gender, and have their bodies weaponized by terfs
To fat queer people who are viewed as “cringe” for the crime of existing as fat and queer
To fat queer people who can’t even buy pride merchandise without having to worry if their size will be offered and then have to pay more than thin queer people just to show their queer pride
To fat queer people who developed eating disorders due to the fatphobia peddled by their own communities
To fat queer people whose identities are partially influenced or entirely caused by the fatphobia they have experienced for years and decades
To fat queer people who are forced by fellow queer people into sexual positions they’re uncomfortable with, such as topping, just because they’re bigger and have stereotypes forced onto their body
To fat queer people who joined a relationship and experienced sexual trauma because their partner only wanted to humiliate a fat person and ignore your boundaries
To fat queer people who only see themselves in queer porn as a tool for the humiliation of thin queer people who dared to have sex with a fat person or never see your body in sexual content at all
To fat femmes who are viewed as butch no matter what they do because their fatness is gendered against their will
To fat butches who don’t feel able to experiment with femininity if they want to
To fat queer people who have an even harder time finding a partner in the queer community because of rampant fatphobia
To fat queer people who have had to hear “No fats, no femmes”
To fat queer people who are constantly told they’re not “truly oppressed” because they “don’t have it as bad as [X queer identity]”
To fat intersex people who have to deal with strangers believing they’re an expert on your body because fat people can’t have knowledge about how their own bodies work
To fat queer people who can’t even trust that other queer people fighting for equality won’t use fat bodies as symbolism for immoral behaviors and beliefs
To fat queer people who can’t rely on doctors who accept queer identities to not still discriminate against them because of medical fatphobia
To fat queer people who don’t believe they can be loved without being fetishized
To fat queer people whose queer identities are viewed even more as a fetish because their bodies are viewed as a fetish
To fat queer people who took way longer to realize they’re queer because they never saw any queer representation that included them
And to so, so, so many other fat people with experiences of fatphobia in the queer community
You all belong. You are the identities you say you are. You do not make the queer community “look bad” just because fatphobes want to use our bodies as weapons for fatphobia and queerphobia. You deserve to be respected and have representation. You deserve to not be treated as an afterthought.
We are queer, and our experiences matter.
“ To fat femmes who are viewed as butch no matter what they do because their fatness is gendered against their will “
I have been in a ballgown and opera gloves and curled my hair and pink makeup on the full 9 as fem as I could ever get. I was still asked to be ‘the man/lead’ when going to the event.
I fucking feel this so bad. I’m so sorry. You are not less femme than a thin person no matter what shit people say to you, and I promise you that
Been seeing a lot of body shaming talk going around on twitter and it just makes me feel like absolute shit about myself cause I’m chubby and I’ve always struggled with my weight and my relationship with food. Why can’t we live in a world where shit like this doesn’t fucking matter?!?!?
self-flagellation and self-bullying are all bad motivators for change BTW. it can be hard to escape from a spiral but genuinely u have to be nice to urself or nothing will change
you have to take care of yourself and not punch yourself down because you feel like you ‘deserve it’. if you feel like the world is against you, you should at least be on your own side while you work through things.
Please can someone, anyone, find me the post of an orange kitten with a cigarette in its mouth and there’s a caption saying “you wouldn’t understand”
I’M DESPERATE
Still need help finding this—I fear it is lost forever now cause it was on my “for you page” and I absolutely do not remember the blog that posted it 😭
@tikitail any more information? I’ve been looking through all sorts of tags to find, and I have seen many smoking cats but none with that specific caption D:
@paladinofhere sadly I don’t have any other information 😭😭 it’s so obscure and I’m so mad at myself for not reblogging it when I saw it
Please can someone, anyone, find me the post of an orange kitten with a cigarette in its mouth and there’s a caption saying “you wouldn’t understand”
I’M DESPERATE
Still need help finding this—I fear it is lost forever now cause it was on my “for you page” and I absolutely do not remember the blog that posted it 😭
